Judgement is a Thorny Obstacle
in the Path to Intimacy.
Judgement is at the root of power struggle and resistance.
Judgement is forming an opinion of or passing a sentence on another or a situation. It is based on our assumptions, on the story we are projecting onto the other or an event. It often includes criticism or censure as we unilaterally determine whether it is right or wrong, good or bad, advantageous or disadvantageous. The comparisons we draw inevitably lead to a ranking and someone or something ends up at the bottom. This act leads us down a slippery slope to finger pointing and blame. The decisions we make and the choices we elect are colored by our imagination. When we envision the worst we tend to react. And reaction begets resistance and power struggle.
When we are able to be fully present to another or a situation: when we are in this moment now, we are not attached to past memories or making up the future. We are able to discern, to perceive clearly, distinguishing and differentiating features without making them right or wrong. The polarization simply represents a spectrum devoid of a pecking order. We can see people and things for what they are and can assess their fit or alignment with what and where we are. We acknowledge and respect our fellow beings and what they are saying and doing.
When our imagination is used in the service of creativity and inclusion it yields a wonderful living dream of intimacy. A life that is flowing and free of struggle and resistance. When we allow “what is” we loose ourselves and everyone else of the limitations that our beliefs impose. We are freed of judgement. And in that liberation our heart opens.
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